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I See You In My Dreams

Your biological parents may not be your real parents... It's who raised you. Because anyone can drop an egg and get someone knocked up! I struggle on a the real with this because, who I am is not who created me. She's probably a pretty awesome mother but she's not my mother. It hurts but he's a great father but not who raised me. I've learned a lot and I'm grateful for everything my parents have taught me and allowed me to become.

We're taught by society to believe that blood is thicker than water and even people on paper still suck but I got lucky. Family is anyone who loves you and nurtures you through this life.
So on Mother's Day I show my love and affection to my mom, not the woman I'm genetically linked to but Father's Day I pay homage to two great men in my life.
Because no matter how long it takes someone to get to where they are supposed to be in life despite life's hiccups, you may have the potential to be a great parent.

I've been lucky to see redemption for two families. We're not all so lucky to have great parents.
I figured that I'd share this after Mother's and Father's Day and in light of many of my hurting friends, who need fresh perspective.

It doesn't matter if they can't tell you anything about you from growing up. They don't matter... it hurts but your parent that did raise you is probably glad you're not like that loser.

My friends that have lost parents... be someone they'd be proud of even though you can't have those amazing conversations anymore. Give that other parent all your extra love. My friends that are orphaned...I don't know that feeling but don't alienate your friends and other family. Life's too short to go it alone.

- One Love

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