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How to elope, just kidding, How to love!

People tell each other that love sucks... you know what it does! I don't care... I really don't... if you want to be in love and have a fairy tale wedding then by all means. If you want to elope that's cool too, save some money.

I've had love at first sight, it was amazing, would I want it again, probably not but if it happens it happens. It still took work and it still fell apart. So does love suck... yes!

If you've only been infatuated and not in love then sit down til you find someone who is willing to put up with your emotional wreckage. Lust/ infatuation isn't love. We will all get wrinkles somewhere on our body, that's when people get botox or just leave because they can't stand washing sand out of their lovers skin flaps... idk the person that sticks around and cuts your pills up when you're old is the person who loves you.

Someone who cares for every word you speak and wipes your tears away is love. The person who makes you laugh when all your mascara is gone. Let's you cuddle for no reason other than to help you find an emotional safe place. Makes you cheesy eggs when you don't like breakfast but you eat them and realize that they were amazing. Let's you be comfortable in your own skin. That's love. Love is patient, love is kind... etc...

Does anyone really understand love... I doubt it now of days but honestly it doesn't matter. If you find that you've had it and don't want anything to do with that chapter again that's fine. If you've been hurt countless times and you're still hopeless, that's amazing. I hope you find it because you deserve it.

Here's the age old kicker: everything happens for a reason and we never know till many of the pieces are laid out in front of us.

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